Saturday, April 16, 2011

Nobody likes to hear the N-word. When you hear it, it slices right into your heart and snips all your dreams to pieces. It reduces you to a cut-out of yourself. I, of course, am referring to the word "No". (yes, I know that there is another word that is called the N-word. I choose not to dignify that word by talking about it.)

Rejection in any form is horrible. We are taught from an early age that if we want something, we should ask for it. Ask and you shall receive. It even says that in the Bible.

Yet many times over our lifespan, when we ask for something important, the answer is going to be "no". Maybe what we want belongs to someone else. Maybe that man is married and not interested. Maybe the cost is out of our price range. There may be the most logical reason in the world why we can't have what we want, but it doesn't ever numb the sting of rejection when we hear the N-word.

Everyone hears that word repeatedly in their life. Almost daily, we are told what we cannot have. It is a part of life, part of growing up and being an adult. How we respond to the N-word, however, defines who we are and what we become.

Some of us fight, refusing to let go of that desire, waging battle after battle to force someone to give them what they want.

Some of us hate ourselves for not being 'good enough' to get what we want, and fall into despair.

Some of us hate the person who told us "No", and spend the rest of their life holding that anger and hatred within themselves, like a cancer.

Some of us choose to ignore the 'no' and pretend it never happened.

Some of us move on to find another dream.

What do YOU do when you hear the word "No"?

I was very happy to receive this award from A Mountain Momma She's pretty versatile herself, so you might want to go and check her out.


I'm supposed to tell you some things about myself and pass this award on, but I am falling asleep at the moment, so I will take care of this in a future blog.


  1. I stomp off to my room and act like a spoiled two year old for hours. Other days, I'm not nearly as good at handling rejection.

  2. I have to agree with Big Daddy :) I am not good at handling it! But if its something I believe in, then I just press forward until I find a yes :)
    Congrats on your award too!

  3. I can't remember at the moment...but it seems likely that I went and got a book and starting reading and ignored the world for a while. That's what I usually do when something annoys me. I think that is basically the same as Big Daddys reaction. Grats on the award!

  4. Hey, you are welcome. I love your blog!

    How I react to the N-word depends on who said and in what context. If it someone telling me that I can't go to grad school and keep writing, I ignore them. If they tell me not to eat tuna fish and chocolate at the same time, I will probably heed their sage words.

  5. Very powerful word. Congratulations on the award. I’m stopping by from the A to Z challenge and I look forward to reading more from you.


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