My mother just didn't talk to me that much when I was growing up. Back then, there were no shortcuts. As the hausfrau, my mom had stuff to do, like wash our clothes, clean the house, and cook dinners. There was no time for idle chit chat.
My mother always seemed completely discombobulated by me, like she had no idea what to do or say as a parent. To be fair, I was weird, but still. I was emotional . I would tantrum, I would cry, I would need a hug. I had actual feelings, and that completely freaked my mother out.
Other mothers were huggers, and I was a little jealous of those kids. My mother didn't hug unless I asked for it, and seemed ill at ease during the whole event. I felt a bit cheated. Never mind that I am tactile defensive and don't like to be touched--Moms are supposed to hug!
Moms are supposed to teach you how to cook--my mother banned me from the kitchen. Moms are supposed to sew cute little outfits for their daughters--my mom made me wear hand me downs from the neighbors that were several years out of date. Moms are supposed to play with their children as much as possible--my mom spent hours on the couch reading every book on the planet. Moms are supposed to dispense lots of sage advice, wisdom to get through the trials of life.
And yet I learned a lot from my mother.
My mom taught me to accept the things that I cannot change, like the humiliation of dayglo orange polyester pants, and to walk like I knew what I was doing, even if I didn't. She taught me that being on my own was not the traumatic event it seemed. My mom taught me to stand on my own two feet. She taught me that I didn't need a man around to make things happen. She taught me to think for myself, and to accept the consequences of my choices.
My mom taught me those things all without saying a word. Because sometimes the less said, the better. I understand that more and more as I try and be a parent myself.
Also, that annoying habit of rolling my eyes when my husband says something that is completely silly? I get that from her, too.
2.) Advice your mother gave you.